LOL!  

Just keep in mind, your perception of Mr. Right could change at any given moment.  You might fall for a type of guy you least expected you would.

LOL @ Cobalts post.

I'm not so concerned about relationships at this point.

Over the years I've been friends with numerous females.  A few of them would have been good for me, compatible interests, sense of humour, etc, so I asked them at various times.

All the answers I got were "you're nice, funny, and smart, but you're more of a brother".  So, no action there, but a brother I will be.  And most of them I'm still close friends with going on 10 years or so.

Actually there was one who started stroking my hair at a high school party once (I had a brush cut at the time), but I was too young/dense to realize her intentions  She ended up dating a jerk and (rumour has it) getting pregnant.

So, all in good time

I think having high standards (personality wise) is definalty a good thing.
If you continue dating someone who gets on your nerves just for purpos of having a boy/girlfriend is just about as dumb as you can get.

I've only had one girlfriend and I regret it.
I wish I could say that I've never had one.
I really wish that the girl I marry could be the only girl I've ever kissed.
So consider yourself luck if you've never had a boy/girlfriend.
Society puts too much stock in stupid crap like that.

Wow, alot of you make such good points.  It's hard to focus on any one of them!    

Well, I do have a good self esteem I guess, but I just want to have a realistic idea about myself.  If there was something really tangible that I could fix, that would make me more appealing.  Well, I'm not gonna change my short hair anytime soon, so I guess weight would be wear to start.

Like I said, that one guy in particular on the bus really was into me.  He said he liked my intelligent conversation, and thought I was pretty and whatever.  But, even with the compliments he gave me, he gave me this creepy feeling too.  He didn't sit well with me, but it seemed like he was a nice guy.  OR that he put on a #### of an act pretending to be like one so he can rape me or something....  I don't know whether he was lying or whether that is proof that I am a good catch for someone, but I'm not counting out the latter.

But I hate exercise, I hate sports, and I hate to sweat!  And everytime I think I have gotten exercise, I notice all the negative effects but none of the positives.  It would be easier to exercise if after a little running I look in the mirror and I lost 5 pounds.  That would be awesome.

Also I think I just need some work in socialising.  For example, coming home from college yesterday, on the way home there are two narrow walkways.  In one of them, this guy was trying to get through the 'fence' or whatever you call the opening of the walkway with his bike.  When he was coming out, I was nearing to exit the walkway.  So he asked me how I was, but I was expected him to say hi, but still I had heard him and I said back 'HI' which doesn't match what he asked me.  I felt so dumb, and I walked away embarrassed.  The proper answer would have been 'good. How bout yourself?' But, then you got to stand still and wait for the answer or something...  The whole social thing is hard for me.  Online is easy, but it isn't exactly getting me anywhere.

You're right - society pressures you to have a lover, but the truth is you have to like yourself.  Be your own friend and you will be more attractive.  But I have DONE THAT FOR YEARS.  Ofcourse it helps to get out of the house.  A boyfriend isn't gonna knock on my door, and anyway usually when I have to answer the door I don't have my hair or makeup done up, cause I don't care about looks and wasting beauty products when I'm gonna stay in the house.  So many of of my brothers friends have only seen the 'uglified' version of myself.  But, I'm getting older and preparing for my career, and I realise that at some point I'm gonna be a 'true' adult who only has time to worry about work, bills, and never fun (but I really don't want to ever become one of those).  Work to live, but you are only SURVIVING not really LIVING.  Anyway, so while I am reaching independance, but far from it still, I feel pressured that NOW is the time to make friends.  NOW is the time to atleast START looking for real guys, to see if my preferences are too high, or if maybe its possible to lower them.

I guess, when you feel lonely and missing out on what most people have, you start to question if its because you are too lazy to look for love, or if you are just not someone who is gonna get it for a while.

For me its not the length of the hair but what is underneath it. A girl doesn't have to be the supermodel type.  In fact I prefur that they not be because they are so obsessed with there looks. That they can't relax at home unless they are doing something to make themselfs look better. So if it comes to spending time alone at home or a dress up party with a limo. They'll take the limo to the party. And I am not one to live only for the job. I like things more balanced